The 3 reasons why only SOME Kids Life Coaches succeed
Today was a proud mamma bear moment for me!! When I certified Monique Engelbrecht in October 2018, I remember looking at the quality of her portfolio of evidence submission and thinking “this lady is going to go far!!”
Today she was aired on her first live radio interview in South Africa on the topic of bullying not even a year after launching her full-time Kids Life Coaching practice!
Now not everybody I train and invite on board as part of my Kids Life Studio brand ambassador team succeeds in this way...
So I wanted to share the 3 reasons WHY Monique has succeeded like this and so quickly....
1. She is entirely coachable!!!
She asks for help when she needs it and is always willing to learn and grow. So when she reached out to me and I coached her last night before the interview, I knew she would take my tips on board. This is because she comes from a space of love and not ego. Although she was quite capable of doing the interview without my input, I loved how she...
What is your dream as a Kids Life Coach?
A while ago I asked one of my trainee Kids Life Coaches who hadn’t achieved deadline in her course:
“What is your dream?”
She couldn’t answer me...but yet she could tell me what wasn’t working in her life....so I told her that what you focus on is what you always get more of!!
When we first spoke at our initial interview and in our group coaching calls, she had big dreams but life (as it does..) started pulling her in many directions and she became distracted. She used her outer circumstances as an excuse for her inner procrastination and in that one small action she became a “victim” rather than a “victor”.
I have BIG audacious dreams and many people have called me crazy...if that’s what it takes then so be it!! Life often pulls me in many directions but I keep persevering because Kids Life Coaching is my big dream!
I have hard days, bad days, mad days, sad days...I make mistakes, I face challenges, I fall down.
Yet...
I...
The reason why so many Kids Life Coaches fail!
In the past 10 years since I started training adults to use my Kids Life Coaching model, I have noticed a few things about those people who don’t make a success as a Kids Life Coach.
The ones who are constantly making excuses and avoiding the fact that they are letting children down by not taking action.
Could this be you?
This blog post is not to leave you feeling guilty....it is to reassure you! There is hope and yes YOU can change and make your dream of being a world-class Kids Life Coach come true.
If this isn’t you...and you are acing it!!! You are getting clients and your bank balance is positive and your mindset is good....read along anyway because success can be short-lived if you don’t maintain certain habits.
So here goes....these are my observations....
1. Marketing can be taught, but if you don't have the proper mindset; if your brain isn't wired correctly for you to succeed, you're going to fail. This is why ALL of my Kids Life Studio brand ambassadors...
Kids Life Coaching is NOT a trend!
A few days ago one of my certified Kids Life Studio coaches Therese Ndjeh from Swaziland in Africa shared a magazine article with my team and I.
It mentions a particular school as one of the trend setters in Kids Life Coaching in South Africa...Do you know I started coaching at this very school in 2003!!
I started off there as a teacher and introduced a bullying curriculum and taught life orientation to the whole school. I was getting around 5 referrals a month after I left there. This school has been the forerunner in progressive thinking in South Africa for years!!
So although we are excited about the fact that Kids Life Coaching is gaining more traction in the media....we know it certainly isn’t a trend in how it is being portrayed.
Here is a dictionary definition of what a trend is....
"A pattern of gradual change in a condition, output, or process, or an average or general tendency of a series of data points to move in a certain direction over time, represented by a line...
Supporting traumatised children through Kids Life Coaching
Australia needs our prayers after the devastating fires they experienced. The children who are traumatised need support not only in the short-term for their trauma during the fires but over the long-term as they regroup. This is possible through Kids Life coaching along with psycho-social support from a multi-disciplinary team.
Some tips for you....
Parents may be scared and feel the need to shield their children but this isn’t good for long-term mental health of both the parent and the child. Healing needs talking...talking that is conducive to processing trapped emotions.
The aim is to talk openly about the facts on a need to know and age appropriate basis.
Give children the opportunity to ask questions and answer them without excessive shielding. Just be honest. If they don’t hear it from a responsible adult they may hear a blown up version from another child.
Keep children (and yourself) away from the news and repeating news cycles. They are anxiety inducing and can...
A big vision for Kids Life Coaching globally in 2020
This year I will officially be putting Kids Life Coaching on the map...I am not doing this alone as I have 12 of my Kids Life Studio certified coaches doing their Advanced Coach Training which involves rigorous scientific and academic research to validate our approach.
We are very excited about this as we have slowly slowly been paving the way for everybody who follows! We have been doing this by consistently striving for excellence, being professional and getting measurable and sustainable results.
Will you be joining us in our mission....
To make Kids Life Coaching mainstream? Read my Rebranding Childhood blog to find out more...
https://rebrandingchildhood.blogspot.com/…/2020-and-my-visi…
Kids Life Coaching is LOVE in action!
Every year as the clock strikes midnight on 31 December, do you think this?
This year will be my best yet...
I know I have thought that. In fact each year I strive to do just that. I work towards making better choices so that I can live a better life.
But what if I have had it all wrong?
What if life is about more than just living your best life?
What if life is more than making your dreams come true?
What if life is not about sugar coating the truth?
Because the truth as I have come to know it is this...
This year will not be your best year yet. Because that doesn’t exist.
Life will always throw you curve balls. It will always teach you lessons. There will always be heartache and pain. Life is messy!
When you place yourself in a vacuum and constantly strive for excellence and success and freedom...you are bound to be let down.
You stop seeing the richness that the “hard” things in life can teach you about being a better person.
Soooooo many adults fall into the...
Kids Life Coaching as an evidence based approach to supporting children
How to build rapport as a Kids Life Coach
I believe that some adults have a natural flair for coaching children more than others...
Where does this come from?
Well consider this for a moment...
We know what we feel when our mirror neurons tell us what other people feel.
Our mirror neurons are located where empathy is in our brains which is in the prefrontal cortex. We aren't conscious of their messages but they tell us how in sync we are with the person we are speaking to.
When we ARE in sync, everything flows easily.
So when we coach children and we may have a similarity in our own childhood experiences or we can relate, we feel compassion.
That means that we are able to hold space for them in their pain. That connection is called building rapport.
This is why many people who become coaches or therapists have walked their own road with mental health. They are already “connected” to the cause.
In my experience you need to turn your pain into purpose and niche down in a subject area relating to children that...
How to build rapport with children as a Kids Life Coach
I believe that some adults have a natural flair for coaching children more than others...
Where does this come from?
Well consider this for a moment...
We know what we feel when our mirror neurons tell us what other people feel.
Our mirror neurons are located where empathy is in our brains which is in the prefrontal cortex. We aren't conscious of their messages but they tell us how in sync we are with the person we are speaking to.
When we ARE in sync, everything flows easily.
So when we coach children and we may have a similarity in our own childhood experiences or we can relate, we feel compassion.
That means that we are able to hold space for them in their pain. That connection is called building rapport.
This is why many people who become coaches or therapists have walked their own road with mental health. They are already “connected” to the cause.
In my experience you need to turn your pain into purpose and niche down in a subject area relating to children that...
