Life Coaching for children can support children who are forced to conform
These are my reflections on schools forcing children to conform
My global network of coaches and I often have productive discussions on various topics in our secret FB group. This week our focus is “anxiety in children”.
Last week when speaking about “children who think out of the box” one of my Kids Life Studio coaches who is an ex school principal Beth Ferreira-Cant shared such profound insight...(thanks Beth!!)
Too good not to share with you...(see below) What are your thoughts about this topic?
“Such a controversial subject!
I have to agree with you. Through our school going years we are taught to “fit in”, stand in line, and conform... while I appreciate what the schooling system is trying to do here, as there are many children in a class and they have a loaded curriculum to get through, we spend our adult lives trying to stand out?
We want to be different, we spend most of this time just trying to find ourselves.
If we focused on children’s God given talents earlier o...
Walking the walk and talking the talk as a Kids Life Coach
What do you stand for? Do people know? Are you a solid role model to children?
If you are a Kids Life Coach no matter the context, you need to walk the walk and talk the talk.
Coaching children is about guiding them by giving them choices. The trick is in showing them how this is done.
So if you want to coach a child to lead a healthy lifestyle...the question is..are you?
If you tell kids to abstain from alcohol and cigarettes do you make the same rules apply to you?
Over my past 15 years of coaching children I have spent a vast majority of time working on strengthening my mindset. I have made it my priority to spend time on my own personal development.
My Kids life Coaching tip for you is this....
Coaching children is not just about goal setting or finding solutions to problems. It is about giving kids a solid frame of reference that gives them a road map for life.
This doesn’t mean you have to be perfect. It just means you have to make choices that reflect your values are i
...Reflections on how to tell a well trained Kids Life Coach from one that isn’t....
As the founder of The Kids Life Studio® I am very blessed to have been coaching children myself since 2003 and training adults to coach children since 2009.
So often I get asked why my training is premium priced....
The answer is simple...
When it comes to coaching children mediocrity is not the answer. World-class coaching comes with effort. I believe every parent and every child deserves a Kids Life Coach who has put in the hard work to achieve their certification.
My global network of Kids Life Coaches who have certified with me at The Kids Life Studio know what it means to have grit and perseverance!
They do intensive training over no less than 3 months with individual and group support and they participate in weekly assignments, do a case study and submit a portfolio of evidence that gets assessed!!
They understand the value of investing into good education and they choose my training because I can give them one thing they don’t have...
An insiders view of coaching children...
Robin Sharma believes in the power of life coaching for children
Robin Sharma...author of The Monk who sold his Ferrari is somebody I respect highly in the adult coaching space. Here are his 10 wishes that he says he holds for the new world we are building. I believe that as children's change makers, they are especially applicable and he often speaks of children and also supports his own foundation for children.
He gives the advice:
"No kid is perfect. But could I gently suggest that today, you make a commitment to celebrating the best within children. Make them feel special. Help them stand proud."
This is what my global network and I coach kids to understand at a young age. Our tag line at The Kids Life Studio is "where choices are made easy." The transformation we see when children make good choices is magical. They stand proud and success breeds success which is so powerful!
Here is what Robin Sharma says:
#1. I wish for a world where everyone understands that discomfort is the price of legendary. And fear is just growth coming to get
...Adding value as a Kids Life Coach
What are your values?
The reason I ask is this...
In my 15 years of being a Kids Life Coach and having trained hundreds of people globally to use my methods I have noticed that there are two kinds of people...
1. The first kind is a teller. The one who is passionate about children and loves to “help” them but their own life is a mess (for a short while when I didn’t know any better that was me...I tell more in my book The Secret Parent)
2. The second kind is the doer. The one who is passionate about educating, enabling, equipping and empowering children through leading by example.
As part of my Kids Life Coach training I allocate a personal Mentor Coach to each student to map out a unique blueprint that paves the road for their success as a coach.
Now for some this may not seem important...but here is my Kids Life Coaching tip for you....
If you want to coach children and you don’t have your own plan mapped out based on your values, vision and mission...your effectiveness wil
...The proven 10-step system that guarantees success as a Kids Life Coach
As an ex teacher one of my biggest strengths is that I am all about systems and procedures. I also love measuring results and determining what needs to be tweaked, adapted and moulded to maximise future positive outcomes.
For this reason, when I train and certify my Kids Life Coaches, I give them a 10-step process that I have personally been using with great success over the past 15 years.
If you want to see what makes us unique and also the leader globally in Kids Life Coaching, take a look...
If you are a life coach for children and you don't have a system in place...you are setting yourself up for failure!
Also...if you are doing things by trial and error you are compromising the children you are working with.
I really encourage you to stop figuring things out and do extra training on this. Speak to me...happy to help!
Regards with Zeal,
Zelna
Kids Life Studio® & Kids Life Coach Academy Founder
Trial and error is not the answer when you are a life coach for children
When I first started coaching children 15 years ago there were no official certifications like there are today....
I had no other option but to dive in and research, explore, educate and develop myself. So I learnt all about:
CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy)
NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming)
EQ (Emotional Intelligence)
Social Psychology
Positive Psychology
Life Coaching
I attended courses and became familiar in all of them. Thinking they would help me coach...but they didn’t...
It was only when I took the best parts of each and put them into my own coaching model that I started feeling confident!
Yet I was constantly worried...
Was I getting it right?
What if I couldn’t help a child?
What if I did more damage than good?
What if parents didn’t see results?
Fast track to today and I am super confident and have a global network of world class trained Kids Life Coaches who are brand ambassadors for my organisation The Kids Life Studio.
How did I do this...
Lots of sleepless nights
...What does a Kids Life Coach do?
You are probably reading this because you are interested in coaching children. My guess is that deep down you feel you have a calling, a purpose bigger than yourself. You want to make a difference? Am I on track so far?
Whether that purpose is coaching your own child to become a leader or supporting other people's children, I know that you are reading this blog because you have a fire in your belly that has been prompted by all the challenges that you are seeing children facing.
I can assure you that there is nothing more rewarding than knowing that you have made a positive impact in a child's life. Not just an impact that is short lived but something that will lay the foundation for their entire adult life. How do I know this? Many of the children I have coached are now successful adults. For example, I have a Doctor, an Accountant, an international model, a very ambitious entrepreneur, a head of an international charity. All of them still in touch with me because I made an impact o...
Zig Ziglar says you are at the top of your game as a Kids Life Coach when you do these things
Love these insights from one of my all time heroes, Zig Ziglar for the work he did with children. Something to truly aspire to as a Kids Life Coach. Worth a read...
“You are at the Top when...
You clearly understand that failure is an event, not a person, that yesterday ended last night, and today is your brand new day.
You have made friends with your past, are focused on the present, and optimistic about your future.
You know that success doesn't make you and failure doesn't break you.
You are filled with faith, hope and love; and live without anger, greed, guilt, envy or thoughts of revenge.
You are mature enough to delay gratification and shift your focus from your rights to your responsibilities.
You know that failure to stand for what is morally right is the prelude to being the victim of what is criminally wrong.
You are secure in who you are, so you are at peace with God and in fellowship with man.
You have made friends of your adversaries, and have gained the lov...
Kids Life Coaching is about harnessing and nurturing a child’s strengths.
So many adults focus on what’s wrong and only when they see a child having a problem they try to put interventions in place.
There are 4 types of parents that I have identified. The type my global network of Kids Life Coaches and I like to work with most are the proactive ones!
This is the parent who realises that life throws curve balls and they know they don’t always have the capacity to stay objective in their child’s journey.
They understand the value in having a neutral and objective professional such as a Kids Life Coach equipping their children with a toolkit for life.
Rather than waiting for things to go wrong (because a problem will eventually arise...) they put measures in place beforehand to build resilience.
My tip to you is to focus on educating parents on the benefits of coaching. Even if the parent is not proactive and they may be part of the problem, I recommend always coming from a non judgemental viewpoint.
In my opinion....Parents don’t need coaching....t
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